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A Commuter’s Guide to College // Part 2

It’s that time of year again: Back to school! Which means, loads of college posts are coming your way! About two years ago, I wrote a post called “A Commuter’s Guide to College.” Now that it has been a couple of years, and I am heading into my senior year of undergrad, I thought it was time for an update.

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A Commuter’s Guide To College // Part 2

1. Get involved. One of my biggest college regrets is that I didn’t get as involved as I would have liked. I’ve spent a lot of time blaming it on commuting, but that’s really not what is at fault. The fact that I never went out of my way to do any of the fun extra curricular stuff is completely and totally my own fault. If you are just starting out in college, I totally recommend that you get involved with some type of club or activity that you are passionate about, and stick to it. 

2.  Get to know your professors. If you can, get to know your professors a little bit. This way, if you have to miss class because of an emergency like an illness or icy roads, they know you and that you wouldn’t lie about it. I’ve had to miss class so many times because of bad roads, and my professors have always been really cool and understanding about it because they know my character. 

3. Email your professors if you aren’t going to make it to class. This is sort of for everyone, and also kind of a ‘duh’ tip, but seriously. If you aren’t going to make it to a class, be responsible and let your professors know. This speaks loads about your character. 

4. Make time for your homework. When you commute, it is easy to get behind in your work because of family, jobs, and other responsibilities. So just make sure that you are making time to get your homework done, because it really does impact your grade!

5. Keep some sort of planner. I’m only organized because I use a planner like crazy. Between my family and school and work, I’ve got a lot to balance. I’ve taken to using the bullet journal method in all my planning to keep me organized and let me tell you, it helps a ton! Find what works for you and stick with it; I guarantee it will make your experience so much easier!

Are you a commuter? What are some of your tips for people who are commuting to college? I’d love to hear them in the comments below! 

All the love,

Shi xx

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Currently // 7.18.17

Happy Tuesday, my dears.

It’s been quite a while since I’ve updated you on my life and what is currently going on, so I figured that that is what I would do today. We are settling everything up before we head out on a couple of trips, so I’ve got a lot to get done in the next few days. Keep an eye out for more exciting posts coming in the next few weeks!

CURRENTLY.

READING //

I’m being totally terrible right now and not reading anything. I’ve been struggling so much with getting into books, and I don’t know why. Leave me your favorite books in the comments! Maybe one of them will get me out of this reading slump!

WRITING //

I’m working on some blog posts and getting ahead for the next few weeks as summer winds down and we are out of town. 

LISTENING //

Hillsong United ‘Wonder’ has been on repeat all day, every day! It is such a great album!

THINKING // 

I’ve been thinking about grad school and whether or not I should get my masters. I’m seriously considering it, but also am so unsure if I have another few years of school in me. Did you do grad school? If so, was it worth it? Leave me your thoughts in a comment!

WISHING //

That I was heading out on vacation today. 

HOPING //

For renewed energy this weekend while we’re out of town. 

WANTING //

Fall to be here so, so badly. 

FEELING //

Pretty good, actually. Jesus is good to me. 

I hope that you all are having a fantastic week. Let me know what you’re currently up to in the comments below! I’d love to hear about it 🙂

All the love,

Shi xx

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Serving in Singleness


Shaun Frankland

Today I want to get really real with y’all about serving in singleness. For so much of my life, even up until recently, I had this image of serving the Lord in my head. It was something like this: I would wake up in the morning next to my spouse, we’d eat breakfast and then have quiet time together. There would always be someone to pray with. There would be someone who would wake up with me in the middle of the night just to worship when we couldn’t sleep. We could go out and love on the lost together. 

 I had no idea how to serve the Lord in my singleness. In fact, I would even go as far as to say that I felt like I couldn’t fully do anything for the Lord without having a significant other there to do it with me. And oh how wrong I was. 

The fact is singleness is a wonderful time to serve. Paul writes this in 1 Corinthians 7:32-34: 

I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. 

Our singleness is a time when we don’t have to worry about other people. You know what happens when you add another person into a relationship? You start to worry about what they want you to do and how they want you to act, instead of just focusing on Jesus and what he wants you to do. You start to people please and wonder if how you are acting is helping them in their walk with the Lord. 

Our singleness is a time that we can put all of our energy full force into the Lord and what He is calling us to do.


Singleness is a season where we can spend all of our time getting to know the Lord fully. We get to spend as much of our time as we’d like in the word, in prayer, in worship, just getting to know who our God is and how great he is. 

And that isn’t to say that the season of marriage is any less awesome, because frankly, it’s gonna be pretty dang great. But for right now, while I have so much time to myself, I’m going to spend it serving the Lord. I’m going to spend it in the word; I’m going to spend it in worship; and I’m going to fully immerse myself in Him because I can

I hope you all have a happy, happy week serving the Lord in whatever season of life you are in. 

I’lll see you next time,

Shi xx

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Looking For Companionship


Jez Timms

 

Genesis 2:18 // Then the Lord said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make a helper for him.”

There it is. Right there is proof that we are naturally drawn to people. God didn’t want us to go through this life alone. In fact, God tells us that it is not good for us to be alone. He created us to want companionship, to want to be around other people. He created us to want to find a person to spend the rest of our lives with, because life is better together. 

So what should we do about companionship in our singleness?

Well, according to dictionary.com, a companion is either: 

  1. a person who is frequently in the company of, associates with, or accompanies another; or 
  2. a mate or match for something 

You see, when I think of God wanting us to have a companion, I always go straight to my future husband. But I think what I sometimes forget about is all of the people in my life who I am around frequently; my friends, my classmates, my coworkers—they are all my companions! I always am so caught up in wanting the perfectly planned picture in my head of what I think my future is going to look like to come true, that I often forget to look at the people that around me right now. 

It’s so easy to feel alone until you look around you at the big picture.

I’ve got friends and family who love me so unconditionally. They are the ones who are teaching me how to love and preparing me for when my spouse does eventually come into the picture. It’s really a beautiful thing, if you think about it. 

God doesn’t call us to do life alone. We are surrounded each and everyday with some people he has placed in our lives for a reason. 


This week, I challenge you to really look at your support system—look at your companions. Who has God put in your life to teach you to be a better spouse one day? Who has he put in your life to love you unconditionally until your person comes around?

These are the relationships to treasure right now, because once you are in a committed relationship, these will shift. Love on people as fully as you can right now. They’re in your life for a reason.

Blessings,
Shi xx

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You Need To Hear This.

You need to hear this. || A response.

If there are two things you need to know about me before I start this it’s these:

  1. I am an avid youtube watcher
  2. I am a hopeless romantic

I started watching this on YouTuber’s videos a few years back, after I saw one of her vlogs about young life. I’ve been following her ever since.

I don’t know her; I do know girls like her, though. Girls who have been through what she is going through—so desperate to find someone who will love them so fully and recklessly. And they all have their ways of searching for that—through “serial dating,” through one night stands, through leading guys on. It’s all about feeling that intimacy. Feeling some sort of control over the situation and over how you will end up feeling in the end.

When I watched her newest video my heart hurt for her and for all of the girls who are in the same boat as she is. This post isn’t meant to come across as judgment. As I said before, I don’t know her, but I do know that she is hurting, like so many of us are, and I wanted to make this post with the intention of it reaching even one person out there who is struggling with this.

She started her video talking about the future—particularly future spouses. She listed off a few of the things that would make up her dream spouse. (Here are mine: he makes me laugh, loves me even when I’m a mess, loves kids and wants a family, and so much more). We all have these lists of things we want in our future spouses, and this isn’t a bad thing at all. In fact, these can be great.

When I was 13 I went through a class on sexual purity. I had never even heard of half of the things that we talked about prior to the class. But one of the things that we did talk about was making these lists. We all wrote down what we wanted in our future spouses and we prayed about it. To this day, I still pray about it. 

But here’s what we do need to realize and accept about these lists. Sure, someone could meet every single quality that we are looking for—but they still won’t be perfect. We’re humans. We’re sinners. We’re flawed. Nothing that any of us do is ever going to be perfect. It’s just not possible.   And when we can’t find our perfect, that is when we often start to, in Katy’s words, “accept what we know we don’t deserve.” We accept less than we deserve because we submit to never being able to achieve perfect. 

So why do we do that? 

The answer: we crave intimacy.

For this YouTuber, she talks about one night stands and how occasionally, she’ll use those to fulfill her need for intimacy. She talks about the feeling that she gets just by being in someone’s arms, and how it feels like finally getting it right. 

Until they leave. 

I’ve been there. 

For me, personally, it wasn’t one night stands. My tactic was to just avoid guys at all costs because I’d convinced myself that no one was ever going to love me anyway, so why try? 

I have friends who have been there. 

Sipping on alcohol until they can’t feel their limbs anymore and they finally feel free, lovable, unreserved. 

Going back to boys who had wrecked their hearts over and over and over because they thought that no one else would ever love them the same way—that they would never love anyone the same way.

We all crave love. 

We all crave intimacy. 

So here’s my proposal: what if we don’t find our intimacy and fulfillment inside of our significant others?

What if there’s someone out there who could love us even better than any other human can? 

In the last few years I’ve learned a lot about the God shaped hole in my heart. The one that I thought could be filled with friendships and love and acceptance, when in reality, could only be filled by the creator of my soul. 

I remember it like it was yesterday: I was laying in bed one night in tears, because I felt like so much of an outcast. I had my phone playing random music, and “Beloved” by Tenth Avenue North came on. (If you’ve never heard it, please take a few minutes and listen to it). In that moment I physically felt the arms of Jesus wrap around my body and just hold me. 

It was probably the most comforting thing I’ve ever felt. 

And it was so, so real. 

I honestly don’t know what else to say. Just, God’s love is so much deeper and surer than anything I’ve ever felt on this earth. He’s held me every time I’ve ever felt like I was falling apart; every time I would run away, He’s been waiting with arms stretched open for my return. 

Do I want a marriage with an awesome guy who will love me fully? Of course!

But do I need that someday so desperately that I’ll do anything possible to fill that hole now? No. 

My God’s got me; I’m going to focus fully on him and live in peace and satisfaction and wholeness because that’s who he is.

Love of my life
Deep in my eyes
There you will find what you need
I’m the giver of life
I’ll clothe you in white
My immaculate bride you will be
Oh come running home to me

you’re chasing lovers that won’t satisfy

won’t you let me make you my bride

you will drink of my lips and you’ll taste new life”

Blessings,

Shi xx

Disclaimer: names have been left out for privacy reasons. If you know who I’m talking about, please do not mention their name. Thanks.
also: this wasn’t originally meant to be posted for my The One On Singleness series, but it definitely relates so I’m categorizing it as such! Companionship in singleness is still coming out on Tuesday! 🙂